Two are Better than One

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NKJV) says, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up.

Friendship is so important. Too often in life, we are so quick to throw away a friendship because of some offense or disagreement. Someone makes us mad or does something that we disagree with and instead of trying to work it out, we just disconnect from that person.

People are imperfect! There is something to be said about working through things with people! There is power and stability in a good friendship! People are worth it! Work hard to keep your friendships! Be loyal! There’s something so very wonderful about having a great friend in your life!

I have been so blessed in my life with such good friends. I have people who are willing to be honest with me even when it hurts and vice versa. There are people who I trust enough to bare my soul to and be vulnerable with and them with me. We are stronger together and so are you!

~Danielle Paden~
My Not So Perfect, Perfect Life Blog

HELP, I need somebody!

So how does loving people, instead of gossiping or judging help YOU? It allows “God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand (Phil 4:7),” to work its magic inside of you! When you allow it, “His peace will guard your heart[s] and mind[s] as you live in Christ Jesus (Phil 4:7).” When you learn to see people how God sees them, you won’t feel stressed and upset when they do something that’s not right. You won’t feel judgmental and critical toward them. You’ll love them through it and be there for them.

Have you ever had an encounter with someone when you messed up, that wasn’t good? How did it make you feel? I once had a boss yell at me in front of a group of people for doing something wrong. Do you know that nothing about that situation instilled in me a desire to do better?

People who truly need help and need to mature need our love and support. People who aren’t making the best decisions usually know inside that they’re not? They don’t need someone, beating them down for it or smacking them upside the head. They need a “prodigal son” encounter (Luke 15:20-22, 24).

They need to know that you’re there and you’re going to love them through it. That’s God’s grace and mercy, which IS good news. If God had a 2×4 on the other end of this ordeal that wouldn’t be good news. He doesn’t, because He’s kind!

The Bible says we were made in His image. If God is kind, we have that kindness inside of us. Let’s be kind to people! Let’s let our light shine and give an awesome representation of Christ. Be that person who says, “Hey! We love you. We’re not going to judge you or smile and then talk bad about you behind your back! We’ve been through what you’ve been through, we understand and we love you.” The End.

~Danielle Paden~
My Not So Perfect, Perfect Life Blog


Remember Where You Came From

You know, one good thing about remembering where you came from, is to remind yourself of the grace that people extended to you when you were in that place. I am surrounded by some seriously Godly and wise people who have spoken ridiculously amazing gold nuggets into my life!

It’s easy when you gain wisdom here and there to fall into a place of where you’re looking at people, wondering why they’re not making better decisions. It’s like when you’re a parent watching your kids do something, thinking, “Yep, that’s not going to work,” and yet they do it anyway. How much more could God, in all of his wisdom, continually look at us like a bunch of morons, but He doesn’t!

He loves us and He wants us to see each other in the same light that He does! He runs to those who are lost. He doesn’t say, “Jesus, did you see how they’re acting? That’s ridiculous! Why did we make them again?” No, He draws them close to Himself. We have to be the same. We have to stop the judgement. Luke 6:41 says, “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not perceive the plank in your own eye?” Just stop!! We need to love people.

We need to love people. Another biggie that we need to guard against, is gossiping under the premise of prayer. We need to stop that too!!

Ephesians 4:29-32 (NKJV) says, “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”

Proverbs 16:28 (MSG) reminds us the consequences of gossiping, “Troublemakers start fights; gossips break up friendships.”

Proverbs 20:19 (MSG) also says “Gossips can’t keep secrets, so never confide in blabbermouths.”

So how do we avoid all of this mess? By seeing people the way God does. When you can see people the way God sees them, it will cause you to love them with a love that can’t be explained and doesn’t make sense.

1 Cor 13: 3-8 (MSG) says “If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.” Love Never Dies.

Now, THAT is love! Next blog we will talk about how this benefits YOU!

~Danielle Paden~
My Not So Perfect, Perfect Life Blog


Mean Girls

Sometimes without meaning to, we adopt the attitude of the Pharisees, like in Luke 15:2 (NKJV), “And the Pharisees and scribes complained, saying, “This Man receives sinners and eats with them.” ”


We judge people based on their actions, because they should NOT be doing that. We are shocked when imperfect people act imperfectly! How does God see them?

I remember when I was in the 5th grade there was this girl who was a bully. I still remember her entire name. It was…haha, just kidding! She was so mean and hateful to me and I really just couldn’t stand her. She was also scary. I remember she got suspended and her mom called and yelled at the principal and they rescinded her suspension. It was crazy! I remember complaining about her to my Mom and I honestly can’t remember what my Mom said, but I do remember that she began explaining why she might have acted the way she did. I remember feeling so frustrated with my Mother…how could she stick up for her? I mean, that girl was crazy! You know, in that moment I didn’t realize the invaluable lesson that my Mother was instilling in me: the ability to look through a filter of how God sees people, instead of taking them at face value and judging them by their actions.

Having that “God filter” feels impossible unless you have a true understanding of how much God loves you.  Seeing people God’s way is so important! It puts us in a place where we stop judging people for where they are, so we can bring the awesome gift of salvation to them and help them to mature and grow!

Of anyone that I’ve ever met, my mother is the greatest example of being able to see the good in someone. Do you know that it’s not a testament to who she is, but to who Jesus is inside of her? It used to drive me absolutely crazy!  I’d go to her to vent about something or someone (like my 5th grade nemesis) bothering me and she would respond with some explanation about how maybe they were just tired or didn’t realize how they came across.

Matthew 5:16 says, “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” My Mother is GREAT about letting her light shine. Sometimes, we act like the “mean girls” of the Christian world by looking down on people because of where they are in their lives. It’s kind of hard to let your light shine if your ugly attitude snuffs it out!

~Danielle Paden~
My Not So Perfect, Perfect Life Blog


Do You See What He Sees?

So, how DOES God see people?!

Luke 15:3-7 (NKJV) says, “So He spoke this parable to them, saying: ‘What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he loses one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the wilderness, and go after the one which is lost until he finds it? And when he has found it, he lays it on his shoulders, rejoicing. And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and neighbors, saying to them, “Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep which was lost!” I say to you that likewise there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine just persons who need no repentance.’”

Jesus dropped everything to find that one little lost sheep. He didn’t reprimand the sheep for being lost, He celebrated!

Luke 15:20-22, 24 says, “And he arose and came to his father. But when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him. And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and in your sight, and am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ But the father said to his servants, ‘Bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet.  And bring the fatted calf here and kill it, and let us eat and be merry; for this my son was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ And they began to be merry.”

He was so excited. He didn’t start listing everything he’d done wrong.  He rejoiced with him and saw him through the filter of where he had been and where he was now. THIS is how God sees people. No matter what state someone is in or what they’re going through, they are so very precious to Him!

~Danielle Paden~
My Not So Perfect, Perfect Life Blog



My Aunt told me that when I was a little girl, I used to get mad and call people “dummies.” I know…quite the charmer! They tried to get me to be nicer and call people “sweeties,” instead. She said one day, I got really mad at someone and yelled, “SWEETIE” in a really ugly tone! I’m sure there’s a lesson in there somewhere (wink, wink)!

Being a “Sweetie” is kind of important.  One of the most important jobs that we will ever have on this earth is telling people the Good News about Jesus! How do we do that? By being kind!

The Bible says in Romans 2:4 (AMP 2nd half of the verse), “Are you [actually] unaware or ignorant [of the fact] that God’s kindness leads you to repentance [that is, to change your inner self, your old way of thinking—seek His purpose for your life]?”

John 3:17 (NKJV) “For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.”

If we’re truly going to impact the world, then we have to see people the way God sees people! He loved them so much that He gave them His most precious gift. That’s Love!

~Danielle Paden~
My Not So Perfect, Perfect Life Blog